Role of Father in Parenting — Part 2

Reactions cant help children to realize their mistakes. In fact, make them more argumentative, but reminders can. If your child is doing something annoying, you can do something different in words that don’t affect. Fathers should have a very positive outlook if they have to teach the lesson out of every adversity. Learn more about how you can change your words and get a difference right from the start in your children

As I discussed in my previous article, fathers must also take responsibility and play their roles equally. Practice what you preach as kids are great observers. They start picking up the basic tell-tale signs very quickly, which you don’t want them to, and subconsciously develop the same mistakes as you do.

EXAMPLE Recently, I came across a father continuously called by the debt collector. The father requested his 6years old child to answer the call and say that he was not around. The irony here was that the grandfather was silently observing all this. Then sarcastically commented something on the situation, stating, “If you wish your children to speak the truth, you can’t do otherwise.” It was an eye-opener for the father.

For instance, children might lie to cover something up to avoid getting into trouble. See how you respond to make a story more exciting experiment — for example, by pretending something happened in a story was get attention or sound better get something they want -

EXAMPLE: You could say, ‘Mum lets me have lollies before dinner to avoid hurting someone’s feelings — this type of lie is called a ‘white lie.’

Generally, children can tell lies around the age of three. It occurs when they realize you aren’t a mind reader, so they can say things that aren’t true without you knowing.

It’s common for young children to tell lies starting at 4–6 years old, but if they’re asked to explain what they mean, they’ll usually own up. Children may become better at telling lies by matching their facial expressions and tone of voice to what they say.

As kids become older, they can lie more effectively without getting found out. The untruths also get more muddled because youngsters have more words and see others’ thought processes.

By pre-adulthood, kids consistently lie to try not to offend others.

ENCOURAGE KIDS FOR SAYING THE TRUTH

Once children are old enough to understand the difference between actual and not accurate, it’s good to encourage and support them in telling the truth.

You can do this by emphasizing the importance of honesty in your family and helping children understand what can happen if they lie.

HERE ARE A FEW TIPS

• Engage your children in a conversation about lying and telling the truth. Consider asking, “How would mom feel if dad lied to her?” or ‘what happens if you do that to your teacher?’
• This will help your child avoid situations where they feel the need to lie. A child might feel tempted to lie if you ask them if they spilled the milk. You could avoid this situation by simply saying, “I see there was an accident with the milk.” Let’s get it cleaned up.
• Give your child praise for accepting responsibility. For instance, “I am so glad you told me what happened.”. Now, let’s figure out what to do.
• Be an example of honesty. I wrote a report for work today, and I made a mistake. I let my boss know so we could fix it.
• Use a joke to encourage your child to own up to a lie without conflict. For example, your preschooler might say, ‘My teddy bear broke it.’ You could say something like, ‘I wonder why Teddy did that?’ Keep the joke going until your child owns up.

There is a fragile line between three terminologies in use to understand action-reaction and responses. Your every action will have a rection (Bollywood MovieAction Replay just Reminds me of an analogy ).

Reactions cant help children to realize their mistakes. In fact, make them more argumentative, but reminders can. If your child is doing something annoying, you can do something different in words that don’t affect.

Fathers should have a very positive outlook if they have to teach the lesson out of every adversity.

To be continued…..